I have started interacting with several other lesbians at the UU church, and even a few at work. Being in the South they were all raised in very religious environments that have condemned them for their homosexuality. Really, they go through the same things that we MoHos go through to one degree or another. They have the same scars that many of us do.
As I was talking to one of the ladies the other day she was very self-condemning. She is in a relationship with another woman right now and as she talked to me all she could talk about was how guilty she felt and that she needed to stop sinning.
I found myself seeing things not from her point of view but from the point of view of her partner. How does her partner feel about their relationship being a "sin". I don’t want to be someone else’s sin.
I was asked a few months ago what I was looking for in a future girlfriend. Coming out was too fresh. I had not really thought it through. Now months later I am starting to answer that question. I definitely think that girl has to have gotten over looking at homosexuality as a sin (or on the road to getting over it).